Ways to challenge gender stereotypes in your home

Before your precious baby is born, people have created a stereotypical picture of your child. Gender Reveal Parties, Baby Showers, gifts from the family and shopping centres identify your child as either a boy or a girl, usually with the accompanying colour range. Some families choose not to follow this stereotypical view and know that gender is actually on a continuum with many possibilities, between ‘he man’ and ‘tinker bell’, with all people falling somewhere inbetween. 

Some schools have started to be far more inclusive of gender difference and are actively challenging these stereotypes in the classrooms daily. Family homes can reinforce or break down this learning, and support for this world view definitely assists children to integrate into the world far better. Here are some tips on breaking down the gender barriers in your home:

 

Ensure your home reflects that it is okay to be different in the wider sense of the word. Actively seek out role models to interact with as a family, particularly those who are different from you. Families with parents of the same sex, families with only one parent and traditional families can assist children to understand what is ‘normal, even if it doesn’t copy their family.

 

Challenge stereotypes when you hear them at home amongst your family. Family get togethers are a perfect time to talk about stereotypes, with most adults still being scathing of people who are different to themselves. Enter serious discussions and include your children, even if the topic is heated. Use inclusive language too: ‘moffie’, ‘fag’ and ‘bunny’ are words that children should be told are not acceptable. Reward your children for standing up against discrimination.

 

Picture books and story books are good ways to introduce difference in gender into your home. Julian is a Mermaid by Jessica Love and The Girl with Two Dads by Mel Elliott are two of the books Pinelands North uses in their Philosophy for Children course. Both of these books challenge stereotypical lifestyles. Challenge stereotypes too by encouraging your children to play with toys that are not conventionally ‘boys’ or ‘girls’ toys: boys love dolls houses and girls love car garages too!

 

Look at the spaces in your home and ensure they don’t reinforce stereotypes. Dads calling a room the ‘mancave’ and having a pink frilly ‘princess’ bathroom for your daughter instil views that men should have caves and girls should like pink frilly things! The jobs in the house should be shared but not by gender: anyone should be able to iron, wash the car or the dishes, and water the garden.

 

And finally try to attend conferences and courses on gender differences to ensure you have the correct information. A good place to find information on this topic is through FaceBook – there are several very good sites you can join to find out the most up to date pronouns and research available. Through you, a whole generation of future adults could be far less discriminatory than the adults of today!